A Confluence of Little Things
Content note for asexual erasure and invalidation. Sometimes the little things are what really gets to you. The way they just sneak themselves into an experience and jump out at you when you’re no...
View ArticleAtheism, Truth and Morality
There has been a bit of a conversation going on over at The Asexual Agenda about the intersection of asexuality and religion. This morning Siggy weighed in with a post on his own stance on atheism, and...
View ArticleWhy I Am Assailable, Too
CONTENT WARNING: This post contains generalised discussion of sexual violence and rape, as well as detailed experiences of an emotionally abusive incident and its aftermath (I guess that's probably the...
View ArticleFeeling Apart
I have been having a lot of weird feelings about being asexual lately. Feelings of doubt, confusion, isolation. Part of this has to do with the fact that a few months ago, I ended my relationship with...
View ArticleAn Asexual Future?
This is my post for the September Carnival of Aces, which I am hosting this month. Last month, Queenie posted to The Asexual Agenda on how hard it is facing the future without some sort of map. Her...
View ArticleThings I Wish I’d Known About Being an Aromantic Ace in a Relationship
It'll be different to everything you imagined growing up - especially given that you've never been in a relationship before. It will even be different to everything you've learned by talking to other...
View ArticleOn Coming Out as Asexual at Work (or not)
Something I've been thinking about a lot recently is the whole coming out process. It makes sense, really - I'm at the start of my third week in a new graduate job - my first post-uni, adult, office...
View ArticleShould queer people be part of workplace diversity policies?
Since starting full-time work, I have been thinking a lot about the intersection of queerness/asexuality and the workplace. In my last post I talked more specifically about coming out as ace at work...
View ArticleIs ‘lack of sexual attraction’ the best way of describing asexuality?
This is possibly a bit of a contentious topic, but I have been wondering for a long time whether describing asexuality as 'a lack of sexual attraction' is the most effective way of communicating what...
View ArticleThe strange state of being neither in, nor out
A while ago, I wrote about being in a new job and not quite knowing if (or to what extent) I wanted to be out to friends and colleagues. This is, I suppose, a follow-up to that post, three months...
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